With the release of Kinfolk, an online magazine devoted to “small gartherings”, I’ve been inspired by the idea that entertaining is changing. For a long time now I’ve been turned off by the word, “entertaining”, which brings to mind perfect parties, formality, and posturing- keeping up with the Joneses. Entertaining seems dated. Times are changing. We’ve been through a recession. After all the spending of money we don’t have and buying houses we can’t afford, we’ve filled these houses with stuff that hasn’t brought happiness. For many, the reaction is to simplify. Pare back. We’re investing less in material things and more in the things that really fill us- our friendships.
Gathering is different. Gathering evokes a feeling of ease, warmth, and a focus on interacting rather than performing. In this world we’re becoming so insular. We forget the importance of gathering with friends to share stories at a thoughtfully set table with simple, flavorful food. Because of Kinfolk magazine, I want to remember.
I’ve decided to begin posting to LaDomestique.com on Sunday, the day of rest. Much of the week at this site is about learning and doing, but Sunday will be about reflecting. Join me in an effort to keep it all in perspective. I will share a special moment from the week, and I would love for you to share snippets of your small gatherings in the comments section.
To Begin
Charcuterie Plate (c)2011 LaDomestique.com
The husband and I served a simple supper for two of our friends, a couple who pass our home on their commute in and out of the city. She is an apparel designer and he is a photographer. Due to rush hour traffic, I wasn’t sure exactly when our friends would arrive. I didn’t want to be fretting over food getting cold or busy in the kitchen during our visit, so I kept the food simple and went with a charcuterie plate theme.I baked Saffron Bread Rolls to add a personal, homemade touch to the charcuterie, cheese, pistachios, pepperoncini and olives purchased at the grocer. On the table I placed my homemade cherry jam and pickled beets from my garden. Our friends brought cupcakes from a favorite local bakery, Tea & Cakes. We began the evening with bubbly wine and conversation. When it ended we hugged our friends goodnight. I felt a buzz- energized and happy.
I definitely agree and love the idea of ‘gathering’ instead of more formal entertaining! I love cooking for others and gathering friends around the table 🙂
My husband and I are one phase in life beyond our dear friends at church ( they r finishing school and in the transition of moving out on their own while we have already made that transition.) Thus we often take the role of “entertainer” since we don’t live with our parents. That being said, our home is often the gathering place after church. I love to cook simple desserts for them and let the hours fly! And I would definitely define these nights as ” gatherings”. I enjoyed this new addition to your blog. It brings warm memories of pleasant evenings with friends to mind.